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Chapter 11. Deliverance from Unforgiveness Curses by Overcoming Unforgiveness Overcoming unforgiveness God’s way & breaking unforgiveness curses In the body of Christ we call them unforgiveness curses merely because of the problems that result from unforgiveness related matters. Once the matter bringing unforgiveness is dealt with the problems associated with it end. God lifts the penalty for the unforgiveness. God deals with the effects of unforgiveness when a person proceeds to deal with the causes of unforgiveness. Could there be someone that hurt you in whatever way that you are failing to forgive? Forgiveness does not mean becoming best friends with the person even though this would be quite a testimony. It implies letting go of all his/her wrongs and wishing him God’s mercy rather than wrath. God may punish him/her but you have no role to play on the negative side. “Do not repay anyone evil for evil…Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good,” Romans 12:17,19-21. This is easier said than done. So how does one actually apply this biblical concept of forgive and forget? The primary way is through prayer. Praying for the person begins the inner healing process from all the hurt and enables you to take the heart of Christ over the matters. It is impossible or at least extremely difficult to detest or harbor ill feelings towards a person and pray for him/her at the same time. The early stages of attempting to pray for the person may be very trying. It can be like trying to learn a new language on your own. That language is the language of forgiveness. We only learn it by applying it. We also have a helper, the Holy Spirit, as we allow him to teach us this language. During the period when it’s hard to pray for the transgressor it is worth remembering that forgiving the person will benefit us more than the person. This is what’s often called informed self-interest. The individual is aware that something is working to his/her best interest. Forgiving is to our best interest because God said he can only forgive us only when we forgive others. We need God’s constant flow of grace in our lives to have any peace, joy and inner health. And this depends on what we have or don’t have against others. “Forgive, and you will be forgiven,” Luke 6:37. “When you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins,” Mark 11:25. As you labor to pray for God’s mercy upon the person God begins his work of bringing the peace and inner health to you. Praying for the person is working to your best interest. Even health-wise researchers have found that harboring feelings of resentment and unforgiveness results in an increase in stress hormones and blood pressure. Stress hormones compromise our immune system. A lower or compromised immune system increases the susceptibility to mental and physical diseases, including coronary heart disease, depression, infectious diseases, etc. MedicalNewsToday.com has lots of info on this topic. Also remember that forgiveness of the person does not automatically translate to the person being forgiven by God. The person has to recognize his/her wrong and seek God’s mercy on his own. And worse still forgiveness does not mean God now condones the wrong the other person did. This later part is actually the main area that stops people from forgiving. They assume by forgiving the person they imply that what the person did is now considered tolerable or acceptable in God’s eyes. The sin that the person did is abominable in God’s eyes no matter how much he forgives the person. And sometimes God allows the person to experience a worse off wrong, even if his sins have been wiped out from God’s black book. Thus forgiving a person does not render the person’s deeds tolerable or acceptable in God’s eyes, nor in the eyes of fellow beings. Forgiving works to free you from holding bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, hate, vengeance, and so on, towards the person. You receive God’s heart of love. And the biggest avenue to receive the healing and God’s heart of love is through praying for the person. Praying for the person will make it impossible to hate or have bitterness towards person. Love and hate, as said earlier, do not coexist. Your role is to ask God to open the person’s eyes to truly see his/her faults so that he/she can repent and obtain forgiveness from God. The person may not need to meet with you or you going to express your forgiveness. It’s the place he/she occupies in your heart that matters. He/she needs to move out of the area that holds the negatives of unforgiveness, vengeance, and so on, into the area that overlooks all the past wrongs. You also search for something that shows that although evil came your way God ultimately brought good out of it. This enables you to say like Joseph, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good,” Genesis 50:20. If nothing good can yet be associated with the harm please trust God to bring good out of it. It’s difficult to figure out how he will but this is where God does things in such an awesome way beyond our understanding. Tears may flow at a mere reflection of the harm but trust him to ultimately bring good out of it. Then move on to doing your part by forgiving. There is a forgiveness prayer that may have some worthwhile scriptural points in my book Major Spiritual Warfare Principles: Biblical Do’s and Don’ts of Warfare. It’s in Chapter 10 “Christian Persecution –A Deliverance Exception.” Though it primarily relates to persecution it still has scriptural points one may learn in praying for those who attempt or bring harm against us. By not forgiving one may face a prison experience similar to the servant who refused to forgive his fellow servant (Matthew 18:26-34). Jesus ended the parable by saying “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart,” Matthew 18:35. God does the sentence, not Satan. The prison experience may be spiritual, social, material, physical or whatever combination. It certainly brings unanswered prayer since the one not forgiving is still serving hard labor. The prison sentence ends when he chooses to forgive. Forgiveness can be referred to as “informed self interest.” It is doing something for someone in exchange for a favor. In this case the favor comes from God when forgiveness is applied. More content available in the Second Edition of the book: Click here to acquire it Breaking Curses, Including Breaking Generational Curses:
i. INTRODUCTION: Breaking Curses, Including Breaking Generational Curses
Chapter 1. What is a Curse and the Nature of Curses? (What are curses?)
Chapter 2. Five Conditions for Cursing Words Before Resulting into Curses
Chapter 3. What Curses are Not: Matters that do not Constitute Curses
Chapter 4. Three Sources of Curses: God, People and Self-Infliction
Chapter 5. Can Satan Bring Curses? Can Satan Curse People?
Chapter 6. The Nature of Angels: God’s Angels and Fallen Angels
Chapter 7. Breaking Curses from God: No. 1 Source of Curses
Chapter 8. Breaking Curses from Self-infliction: No. 2 Source of Curses
Chapter 9. Breaking Curses from People: No. 3 Source of Curses
Chapter 10. Breaking Generational Curses: God’s Traditional & Non-Traditional Ways
Chapter 11. Deliverance from Unforgiveness Curses by Overcoming Unforgiveness
Chapter 12. Deliverance from Family Curses: Breaking Family Curses
Chapter 13. Familiar Spirits: Eliminating Myths from a Biblical Perspective
* Breaking Curses Book References
* Breaking Curses Book Index Breaking curses book 1 (breaking all curses): Breaking Curses, Including Breaking Generational Curses
©2008 Eric Gondwe
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